Tulsa LGBTQ+

Support. Education. Advocacy

Keeping Families Together

Who We Are

PFLAG is parents, families, friends of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer people. PFLAG welcomes LGBTQ people to participate. We help change attitudes and create an environment of understanding so that our LGBTQ family members and friends can live in a world that is safe and inclusive. We accomplish this through support, education, and advocacy. We offer:

• Monthly group support and education meetings
• Confidential telephone support and information
• Speakers Bureau
• Greater Tulsa PFLAG Scholarship Program
• Links to both national and local resources

PFLAG’s Mission

PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons, their families and friends through support to cope in an adverse society; education, to enlighten and the information-driven public; and advocacy, to challenge discrimination and to secure equal rights. PFLAG provides opportunities for dialogue about sexual orientation & gender identity and acts to create a society that is healthy and respectful of human diversity.

Our History

Founded in 1973, PFLAG is the first and largest organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) people, their parents and families, and allies. PFLAG has over 400 chapters and 200,000 members and supporters crossing multiple generations of families in major urban centers, small cities and rural areas across America. PFLAG is committed to creating a world where diversity is celebrated, and all people are respected, valued, and affirmed.

The Tulsa Chapter was founded by Nancy and Joe McDonald who were seeking information and education when their daughter came out in 1987. The Tulsa PFLAG Chapter was the 20th Chapter to be organized in the nation. Nancy went on to become the national PFLAG President. She spoke before congress regarding protection from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation, and on the Defense Against Marriage Act sponsored by Rep. Steve Largent from Oklahoma.

Nancy and Joe remain involved today, along with several other dedicated board members, many of who have long-standing service with the organization.

LQBTQ+ Education in Tulsa


Story sharing is one of the most powerful ways we can create change. Stories have forever helped open people’s minds, dismantled harmful myths and stereotypes, evoked empathy, and provided real life context to the importance of creating inclusive environments. By sharing stories we can create safer and more affirming environments for LGBTQ+ people. If you are interested in having a PFLAG Tulsa representative speak, please contact us at pflagtulsa3762@gmail.com or call us at 918-998-9515.

Support and Education

If your child just identified themselves as LGBTQ, or are questioning their sexuality, you no doubt have questions. PFLAG can offer you a support group, telephone conversation, or direct you to services that might be helpful to you.

Family support has been linked to helping with your child’s physical and mental health, so please don’t hesitate to reach out to us and feel free to explore the other resources listed on our site.

Support groups are safe and welcoming spaces where you can meet with other parents and caregivers who are also supporting LGBTQ family members and friends. These groups meet once a month, are hosted by trained volunteers (most of whom are parents themselves) and are filled with people who can offer support, answer questions, and link you to resources.

LQBTQ+ Events in Tulsa

Monthly Meetings

PFLAG Tulsa monthly meetings focus on topics that help bring light to topics on the LGBTQ+ community. Meetings have featured current issues before the legislature, updates on sister advocacies working with LGBTQ+ youth, faith and within the LGBTQ+ community, and more.

PFLAG Tulsa meets the second Monday of each month. A support group meets at 6:00 p.m. followed by an educational meeting at 7:00 p.m. The meetings are held at Unity Fellowship Congregational Church located at 2900 S Harvard Avenue. Due to COVID, meetings have been suspended. If you have any questions about attending a meeting, please call the HELPLINE at 918-998-9515.

PFLAG Tulsa Benefits from Sweet & Cream this month!

PFLAG has been chosen for “tips for charity” for the month of June. If you treat yourself at Sweets & Cream…PFLAG will benefit.

Also, Sweets and Cream will be celebrating Pride Month with a party:
Saturday, June 19 for their 𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐃𝐄 𝐏𝐀𝐑𝐓𝐘! Music, photo ops, and specialty Rainbow Sundaes.

Tulsa Pride 2021

June 25th: Rainbow Run
June 26th: Festival & Pride Parade
Find out more about Tulsa Pride here!

LGBTQ+ Tulsa Helpline: 918-998-9515

This is a safe and confidential helpline with volunteers ready to listen, offer support, and provide resources. When you call this number, leave a voicemail and receive a call back shortly from someone who is ready to help. You may request a packet of materials to be sent to you, so please leave your address and the manner in which you want the plain envelope addressed.

LQBTQ+ Advocates in Tulsa

Securing respect, dignity, acceptance, and protection for LGBTQ+ people often requires passing or change laws & policies. This may be in the workplace, the city, county, or state government, public schools or places of worship. Many times this will require engaging the organizations and various audiences in dialogue. Our work in advocacy is first and foremost to educate the public about the disproportionate rates of harm and discrimination LGBTQ+ people face. PFLAG Tulsa has worked tirelessly to change policies at the city and state level. PFLAG Tulsa has worked with public schools to update their policies that relate to discrimination of teachers and students. PFLAG Tulsa has supported legislation at the state level for funding of HIV/AIDS medications and
anti-bulling. PFLAG Tulsa has worked for the inclusion of sexual orientation and gender identity in the Hate Crime Laws.

We are always looking for feedback on what advocacy priorities, laws, protections, etc. our community would like us to focus on. Feel free to email us with your suggestions at pflagtulsa3762@gmail.com.

LQBTQ+ Resources

We’ve included links for relevant content and further education. Please feel free to look and see what might be most useful. If you feel something is missing please email us at pflagtulsa3762@gmail.com.


PFLAG envisions a world where diversity is celebrated and all people are respected, valued, and affirmed inclusive of their sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. Our mission is to build on a foundation of loving families, united with LGBTQ+ people and allies who support one another, and to educate ourselves & our communities to speak up as advocates until all hearts and minds respect, value, and affirm LGBTQ+ people.

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Dennis R. Neill Equality Center

OkEq seeks equal rights for LGBTQ+ individuals and families through advocacy, education, programs, alliances, and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
Serving LGBTQ+ Oklahomans and their allies since 1980, Oklahomans for Equality is home to a diverse, vibrant, and engaged community of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender persons, knowledgeable staff, and dedicated volunteers.

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Gay Straight Alliance

GSA Network is a next-generation LGBTQ+ racial and gender justice organization that empowers and trains queer, trans and allied youth leaders to advocate, organize, and mobilize an intersectional movement for safer schools and healthier communities.

PFLAG Tulsa supports the work of Youth Services of Tulsa in organizing and supporting the Gay-Straight Alliances in public and private schools.

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Straight For Equality

Straight for Equality is a national outreach and education program created in 2007 by PFLAG National to empower new allies who, unlike a more traditional PFLAG member, don’t necessarily have a family connection to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) community. Many corporations and businesses elect to become a Straight Ally and can request training for staff and employees on how to become identified as a straight ally.

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Join PFLAG Tulsa

By becoming a member you support the work of the local chapter and its education & advocacy efforts. Membership is $50.00 annually. PFLAG Tulsa is a 501(c)3 so your contribution is tax-deductible. Become a member by filling out the form below.

Become a Member


PFLAG supports family members, extended family members and straight allies for LGBTQ+ persons.

You can become a member simply by completing the membership form and paying the dues. However, the meetings are free to attend.

The people who are at PFLAG meetings are everyday people. We come from various backgrounds, occupations, and age groups. Some of us have gone through similar experiences. Sometimes we are still struggling with being a parent or family member of a loved one who is LGBTQ. Some of us come to PFLAG just to share stories and enjoy the company of other PFLAG members.

Many of us have had to struggle with being LGBTQ or having an LGBTQ child, and being in a church or temple that rejects LGBTQ people. You are welcome at PFLAG. We will support you in your struggle.

No. You do not have to have a pressing crisis or be associated with anyone in the gay community. You can simply come. Often the stories that we share prompt others to share, and our stories can help each other.

PFLAG meetings can vary from chapter to chapter. They usually start off with introductions about who we are, if we have a LGBTQ loved one, and if we are LGBTQ or not. We ask that whatever is shared be kept in confidence. Then we share announcements of various events that are happening about LGBTQ issues. We usually have a guest speaker talk about one of the myriad of LGBTQ topics. We have time for refreshments and socializing, and then we break into small groups to talk about any LGBTQ personal news or stories we might have.

Each of us comes for a different reason.

  • Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) people come to a PFLAG meeting:
    • to learn from other family members and allies how they can tell the people in their own lives that they are LGBTQ.
    • to help other people adjust to the news that someone they know is LGBTQ.
    • to create a family of choice to replace the family they lost when they came out.
  • Parents and family members come to get support from other parents and family members who have been through similar experiences.
  • Spouses of LGBTQ persons come because they want to support their spouses and their families.
  • Transgender people and their parents come because they want to get support and share about what it is like to have a family member transition to another gender.
  • Allies and friends come to meetings:
    • to support a friend who is LGBTQ
    • to learn how to handle LGBTQ issues that face them in today’s society, and how to stand up for the rights of LGBTQ people
    • to connect with other folks in their community who care about and are working for equal rights for LGBTQ folks
We understand that it can be difficult to be the newcomer and to come to a meeting for the first time. We’ve all been through that experience. Some chapters will offer you a private session with an experienced PFLAG member so you can talk about your experience with someone who can share your story.

If you wish, you can request an individual “coffee and conversation.” You can meet and talk with an experienced PFLAG member over your favorite cup of coffee. We would be happy to arrange this for you. Some people bring their friends or someone else they trust to PFLAG meetings. We welcome anyone who walks through the PFLAG door.

PFLAG members talk about all kinds of things. Some share the news that their LGBTQ child or other family member has come out to other members of the family. We all celebrate that news. Some members share their concerns about family members, friends or co-workers who are not accepting of an LGBTQ person. Some members talk about how difficult it is to hear gay jokes when they have a loved one who is LGBTQ. Some members talk about a news story or a political event that was unfavorable to gays. We also share information to educate ourselves about current LGBTQ events.
People come as often as they want. You are under no obligation to the PFLAG chapter. We hope that you find the PFLAG chapter a welcoming and interesting community. People often come back after they have resolved their initial anxieties because they want to give support to others who are coming to a PFLAG meeting for the first time. We try to follow up. If a PFLAG meeting is not what you expected, let us know. There are lots of different ways to hold the meetings, and people can have many different experiences. If you didn’t feel you got what you needed from a PFLAG meeting, we encourage you to talk with a PFLAG board member to make sure that we hear your story and your concerns.
You don’t have to be an official dues paying member, but we hope you will consider supporting PFLAG by joining the chapter. Membership supports the chapter’s expenses and helps cover the cost of our projects. You can also support the chapter by making donations, volunteering your time, or by attending fundraising events.